Matthew 18:15, “If your brother or sister sins against you go and correct them when you are alone together. If they listen to you, then you have won over your brother or sister.”
For almost a year now the church office has received anonymous notes concerning a variety of issues. As a policy we do not respond to “anonymous” notes, and would prefer to talk face-to-face if someone has a concern. On the other hand, I do believe individuals who consistently feel slighted need to be heard – and yet complaining to others or writing anonymous notes does not allow their concerns to receive attention.
Jesus gives to us very specific instructions on what to do if we don’t like what someone has said or done. To speak to someone with whom you don’t agree allows your concerns to be shared and the relationship healed. To share a conversation provides the opportunity for questions and answers rather than just statements of hurt or accusations. Perhaps there was a misunderstanding, perhaps there is a false report, perhaps an individual has indeed hurt another and needs to be confronted.
Failing to resolve conflict in Christian love not only hurts the individual to whom the anger is directed, but hurts the one with the complaint. We might also recognize the God of love expects more of us. When we do not share our thoughts, hurts, or pain there is no opportunity for reconciliation.
Please, if you have issues you need to talk about, find a way to talk to the person. If the person is the Pastor or a staff person and you don’t want to come forward on your own, know that there are always folks on our Church Council who will listen and/or come to the office with you.
Let us live as Jesus taught!
Pastor Juli Reinholz